Liking this character not only got me out of my "anti" phase, but also helped me to feel more at peace with being a weirdo freak pervert and a "proshipper".
If you told 19 year old me that I would be a fujoshi proshipper simping over a Ben 10 alien at age 25, she would have been shocked! She would think that I would have "fallen off".
I was a different person when I was 19, now starting social media. I swore off using the fujoshi label as I bought into rhetoric claiming that it was "problematic". And of course, I dreaded the idea of turning out to be a "proshipper" because I was deathly afraid of the hate I would have gotten. I was desperate to be liked. To not be "problematic". To be the "right" kind of person. To like the "right" kind of things, to say the "right" kind of things, etc.
But now? I'm going on 25 years now (as of writing this on 09/07/2024), and I'm not getting any younger! I got bigger responsiblities now to be more concerned about and I'm too damn old for this nonsense.
I find XLR8 and a lot of the other aliens to be very attractive, but when I started to be open about my interest in them around late December 2023 - early January 2024 on Insta, this opened me up to receiving unexpected judgement and harassment from a few former online "friends" of mine. In typical fandom cop fashion, I was accused of being a pedophile (yes, a fucking pedophile) for liking the aliens. They didn't express their distain outright (EG:"ERMMMMM YOU'RE A CREEP KYS!!!"), but the accusations were a bit more thinly-veiled and indirect, if I had to describe them (EG: Talking about how they were so "concerned" for me and were just "looking for an explanation", etc.).
The stress that came with "holding myself accountable" and censoring myself for them grew unbearable very quickly, and not long after I cut ties with them. It hurt at first, as I considered them to be close friends of mine for a good 4 years, but eventually I realised it was a blessing in disguise. I was free to draw whatever I wanted with XLR8 and the other aliens without feeling like I had to censor myself.
Since I cut ties, I decided to do more research into anti behaviours in fandom and how they negatively impacted other people and efforts to bring real predators to justice. Since then, I became a lot more understanding of subcultures and kinks I once judged (EG: Lolisho, non-con and dub-con kinks, etc.) and also came to terms with how I even liked some of those things too! I also started drawing more NSFW work of XLR8 himself as a sort of act of reclaimation of my identity, as well as exploring older things I liked when I was younger, but now with the tastes I developed as an adult.
Nowadays, I feel much more comfortable creating erotic dead dove art and stories, and I have more fun just interacting with art and fiction the way I want to as a woman. I wasn't shipping XLR8 with Vilgax or the Xenomorph from Alien when was 19, but now I do and I'm having fun!